Friday
Feb252011

Coming Full Circle

One of the great joys of writing this book has been receiving emails like the following from Linda Studley.

She has given me permission to share it with you.

       My brother sent me your book and I was reading it avidly when I came across one of your characters. You were describing her circumstances and I said "My God, that's my mother!" I don't mean that figuratively either!
        I flipped to the acknowledgements at the start of the book (who reads them first, really?) and there was her name, my mum!
        Thank you for immortalizing my mum in such a lovely way. She was indeed a model of how to grow old gracefully.
        As I am now the coordinator of a senior's support pilot project in BC, I have an even more compelling reason to enjoy your book. I am going to suggest the Seniors Access Society here purchase at least one copy to show our visiting seniors (we get 'young' seniors here too, but my project serves seniors 65 and over).
        I am currently trying to recruit volunteers to be 'friendly visitors' for my seniors and I'd like to promote/quote your book, particularly in that volunteering is a good way to develop some of those networks that support us after we 'retire' (at least from paid work). If you'd like to visit our website to see more on the pilot project it's at www.casidc.org (CASI stands for Community Action for Seniors' Independence, the dc is for Dawson Creek, our location)
        Again, thank you for a wonderful book. It has changed how I see seniors and it has changed how I see myself becoming a senior. And it honours my Mum's grace and independence.

Sunday
Jan232011

The Warmth of Spain Melts Ottawa

Earlier this week 150 people came to Lindenelm, the residence of the Spanish Ambassador, to talk about the book and support HIPPY. The Ottawa branch of this international organization supports 50 families and their preschoolers through home visitors who speak French, English, Spanish, Arabic and Creole.

After my talk, people had lots of questions:

How has my research affected my own life? What am I doing differently?
Did the elders’ finances affect the quality of their aging?
What about spirituality and its impact on aging well?
What did the elders say about the loss of a spouse?

We pulled ourselves away from the group discussion to enjoy the “vino y tapas” and to bask in the gracious hospitality of the Ambassador and his wife. They brought the warmth of Spain to a cold, snowy January night.

Tuesday
Dec212010

New Year's Resolutions

Readers are using the advice from the elders to “think different.”

  • You’re deepening and widening your emotional circle. You’re making new friends and adding some younger friends. And you’re not taking your family and friends as much for granted.
  • You’re taking up new activities – sculling, rowing, dancing, music lessons.
  • You’re mixing up your traditions and breaking down old patterns in order to make memories. e.g.  Doing something completely different for your holiday.
  • You’re taking risks – buying that boat and heading off for an extended cruise, quitting work, relocating, finding a new partner.
  • You’re re-organizing your library while you still have the wherewithal.
  • You’re rethinking retirement and planning to mix in some part-time consulting or deciding to re-train in a different field.
  • You’re downsizing or you’re re-considering the suitability of your cottage as a retirement home.
  • You’re getting rid of your stuff, and trying to convince your partner to do the same.
  • You’re getting together with relatives to research your family tree while there’s still time.
  • You’ve given the book to your partner and said, “After you’ve read it, let’s talk.”
  • You’re reminding yourself about the importance of passion and the need for a challenging, creative interest.  And you’re figuring out how to find it.

What’s your new year’s resolution? Share it by commenting below!

Friday
Nov262010

We CAN Learn New Tricks 

One of my great sources of inspiration is the way seniors are embracing new technologies. I met 90-year-old Simon Goldenthal when we were on CBC’s The Current. Every day, Simon goes on Facebook to connect with relatives spread all over the world, from B.C. to New Zealand.

In October The Current interviewed Ted Broostad who’s 100 years old and lives on his own in Calgary. About six years ago, his granddaughter talked him into getting a computer. He loves taking digital photos, and every morning he’s on Skype talking to his daughter in Kaslo, B.C.

Then there’s my friend who told me this story about her aunt. “At age 80 she’s taken up keyboard. Her son's girlfriend needed to store her keyboard at her house - so she thought it would be a shame to let it go to waste. She's really good at FreeCell, (the computer solitaire card game), so figured she'd be good at keyboard, too. I love her spirit."

Friday
Oct222010

Mansbridge Has a Big Audience

I can always tell when CBC replays my interview with Peter Mansbridge because I get lots of mail. People wrote from right across the country including Surrey, Fort McMurray, Sault Ste Marie and Moncton. Here’s a sample of what they had to say:

(Martha) "I am 72. Age has nothing to do with it. It's all attitude!!!!!!! The way I think, and am, are the same as they always have been. That never ages. The body does... but, so what. Aging is great for wine... it's great for me. The important thing is to create, be creative, to touch nature, to be open. There is never enough 'time' for that. Be positive.”

(Michael) “When your interview started with Peter I thought you had somehow found my daily notes on what I have been experiencing in my life. Your book may help me understand why some of my closest friends have been shying away from the past fun things we used to do together.”

(Bill) “I felt compelled to thank you for your discussion with Peter on healthy aging. I am dealing with a mother who suffers with the old mindset of self-limiting attitudes relating to socialization and learning new skills. I found your approach provided a language to frame and describe my observations. As more of us live longer we are going to have to radically change our behaviours in order to optimize our time frames for healthy living.”