Tuesday
Apr272010

Kingston Reunion

Friends – old and new – joined us on a Sunday afternoon at Novel Idea, the bookstore beloved by Kingston readers. This was a wonderful opportunity to celebrate both my role model, John Meisel, and others. (See photo above. To view more photos click on the blue square on the right hand side of the page.) Our canoeing buddies - Peter Milliken (Speaker of the House of Commons) and Ned Franks took time from more pressing matters of state to grace the event with their style and charm.

 A big thank you to the wonderful young men and women who came to support Andrea and me. They are role models in the making. We’re on to the London launch (see Events for details), followed by a stop in Hamilton to do some TV and radio interviews.

Here is some terrific feedback from Ruth:

“I agree with so many of your statements. People over 50 need to read this to understand how we can age more gracefully, that life is not over just because we are aging. I especially appreciate your thoughts on “Freedom 55”. It is limiting to assume you have to stay in a job, just so you can earn more money to retire somewhere down the road. I myself am moving into a condo with my new husband (2nd marriage for both of us, we “get it” about spending the rest of your life with the right partner) in 8 weeks, and at the same time, will be quitting my current full time job. I am not feeling fulfilled in this job, I know that I do need to continue to work (thanks to the recent recession and losses in the stock market), but I feel confident that I can find another job that will the right fit for me. 

I also agree with your statement about the importance of where we live as we age. We bought a condo in a great neighbourhood that we very carefully selected, so we could be part of a community. We have decided to embrace the European lifestyle, where less is more, quality before quantity, and material possessions are just “things” that do not necessarily bring you happiness.

Again, thanks for sharing your insight into aging. It really meant a lot to me to have my thoughts validated by someone else.”

Saturday
Apr242010

Ottawa Homecoming!

 

A big THANK YOU to family and friends who came out in droves to support the “home team.” There are many ties that bind us to Ottawa. We lived there for a dozen years. It is the birthplace of our elder daughter, and the home of my parents, brother and some of our closest and dearest friends. The welcome began with a beautiful bouquet of flowers awaiting us at the book launch. Thank you Judith and John! Then about 70 people poured into the elegant Nicolas Hoare bookstore and quickly stripped the store of copies of the book. There were many role models to celebrate. Three of my role models - Laurier, Ricardo and Blair were there - looking very dashing – as was my father. (See photo above.) Several friends of my parents (also role models) came to support me, and some friends brought their own role models. All in all - a most celebratory crowd!

While in Ottawa I was a guest on CBC’s Ontario Today phone-in show with host Bill Brown. The topic was Aging and they asked the listening audience, “What kind of old person do you want to be?” People phoned-in with terrific examples of their role models and the half-hour flew by.

Here are more examples of wonderful feedback.

Bonnie writes: “The way you integrated the interviews with your extensive research, general eclectic knowledge, and especially your personal journey can only be appreciated by someone else who has attempted that kind of editing—how hard it is to achieve the balance and tone which makes us put ourselves on the journey with you. You did it!! I’ve asked my husband to read the book next because I want to talk about lots we have to think about—where we live, what each of us does next, whether we are putting our temporal and fiscal and physical resources in the best places. Looking forward to that continuing dialogue.”

Lynn writes: “The best awareness you have given me is the importance of a challenging, creative interest that is up to me and mine alone, to share when asked or should I not be able to keep to myself any longer.”

Monday
Apr192010

Haligonian Hospitality Rocks

It may not be spring yet in the Maritimes but the Halifax welcome we received cut right through the chilly air!  It began with the bouquets of tulips in the beautiful suite we received as an upgrade for the visiting author – thank you Simon, Linda and the Marriott! Several dozen people braved the sleet and icy roads to get to the book launch. And some of them attempted to buy their body weight in books! (See photo below) My feisty role models, Richard, Ruth and Mary were undaunted by the conditions and came out to launch the book in dashing style. (See photos on flickr link.) People took home buttons and certificates to give to their role models and generally got into the spirit of the event. It was a pleasure to meet new role models like the dynamic 87-year old Emmeline. As her son says, “She is full of energy, has a sharp, brilliant mind and a real zest for life.” A special thank you to Linda, Barrie and the rest of the Black clan who made sure we wanted for nothing.

I am receiving some wonderful feedback from book readers. Here’s a small sample:

Alan writes: “I have read your book and, although I confess that I don't typically read this sort of book, it is a terrific work. My sister begins a visit on Friday, and we will celebrate her 59th while she is here. I have now bought a second copy of your book as a birthday gift. (Thanks for solving that little problem.)”

Margaret writes: “I've devoured your book and have resolved to take all your suggestions to heart.  Truly an inspiration and tonight I'll begin the re-reading of it, taking notes and checking out the websites.”

Karen writes: “You’ve changed the way I view my career.  Instead of wondering (as I have) if it’s worth missing some hard-earned fun activity when I’m working, I’m now viewing the work (which was always fun) as something that is and will contribute to my wellbeing and ability to participate in fun activities.  Thank you."

See you in Ottawa.



Thursday
Apr152010

Wonderful Vancouver Welcome!

WOW! We received the royal Vancouver welcome from every corner – spectacular spring days  - everywhere you look a feast for the eyes - bowers of pink cherry blossoms –herons nest-building in Stanley Park - men in business suits and helmets biking along Kits Beach - and sunbathers making a striking contrast to the ski-runs still snow-covered on Cypress.

About 120 people attended the book launch at Chapters. My friend Bill gave me a broad grin when I arrived. “You’ve oversold this event!” he said, “I helped put up extra chairs but folks keep piling in.” Boxes of books had been ordered for the event (175 copies) and by the end of the evening only a handful were left. People bought books for their parents, their partners, their friends and themselves, and they picked up role model buttons to give to the people they admire.

As I was signing books people told me how they had heard about the launch. Some had read the terrific article by Jenny Lee in the Vancouver Sun, others had watched my interview with Fanny Kiefer on her very popular show on Shaw TV, others had come into the store, picked up the book and decided they wanted to hear more. One man told me he had come all the way from Haida Gwaii to be at the launch because he was trying to figure out where to live when he retired.

I was absolutely delighted that two of my role models for the book, Beth and Bob Breadon were able to attend, (you’ll see the photos of them being applauded), as well as many people who had given me wise counsel as I was writing the book. Family and friends came out to support me, including a friend from high school who thought he recognized me from the photo in the paper. And my friend Dale brought her wonderful role model mother. Thank you all! And the lovely room in Chapters with its great cityscapes was a great place to hold the launch. Now on to Halifax. We’re getting to enjoy spring coast to coast!

"Who has a Role Model?"

Monday
Apr122010

Victoria in Full Bloom

Ah Victoria! Her harbour crammed with watercraft negotiating their space on sparkling water - close-hauled sailboats skimming by kayakers, water taxis mindful of landing float planes – and all those birds! And this trip – a new sight for me – a duck purposefully walking along the edge of the road – and on the safe side yet – facing traffic. Despite the gorgeous weekend weather that made it terribly hard for all of us to come indoors, some 40 people gathered at Chapters on Douglas to talk about aging well and to celebrate the role models. Have a look at the photos (click that blue square on the right hand side) to see Dorothy and Ida, two of my role models who were interviewed for the book, as well as other role models being celebrated by their friends.

We talked about the shakiness of using chronological age as a marker for physical or mental capacity since we age very differently. And we shared stories about regrets – things we didn’t do and wished we had (It’s not too late!) and the steps some people are taking to make amends and rebuild burnt bridges. One of the seniors told a story about how frustrating it was to be patronized by a salesman. She was shopping for shoes and her daughter who had come along for the ride was sitting next to her. The salesman addressed all his questions to the daughter until she finally said, “My mother is the customer, not me,” and walked away. This is what it took for him to finally speak directly to this vibrant, intelligent woman. The event concluded with a proposal by one woman to continue the discussion as part of a study circle. She was able to get the nucleus of a group and they made their plans to expand. The conversation continues. On to Vancouver.