Women and Retirement

     When I spoke with my publisher about writing a book on retirement we tossed around the theme “men are from Mars and women are from Venus.” The stereotype is that men are attached to their work so they have difficulty retiring. But when it comes to women, although they may enjoy their work, they don’t have as much difficulty saying goodbye because they have many other irons in the fire and are more likely to have strong networks of family and friends. But I was reluctant to go down this road because I had seen many examples of the converse. I knew women who had struggled in retirement and men who found this stage of life to be a time of reinvention and jubilation.

     To do the topic justice, I felt I needed to focus on one gender and I chose to look at what was happening to my generation of men when they hit retirement-age. One of the happy outcomes of this decision is that many women have told me they identify with the men’s stories and find them equally reflective of their own connection to work and their experience with retirement. I received the following thoughtful feedback from Anne-Marie Bugeaud. Her own dad worked until he was 78, then died at 80. “I vividly remember him always wanting and needing to be active,” she says, “always meeting people, staying energetic and vibrant and being a great inspiration to his family and friends.”

     She writes, “Why would it be any easier for women to adapt to retirement than for men? For the past three or four decades women have invaded the workplace, many as either the main or sole bread winner, many others were single or single moms, in all walks of life, from teachers, psychologists, to doctors, nurses, programmers, engineers, architects, police officers, managers, business owners. etc. Therefore for women, as for men, work is often extremely rewarding and gratifying in many more aspects than just the financial side. We invest so much for so many years that when we retire, we face similar psychological, intellectual and emotional challenges. We can fall in the same kind of ‘black hole’ that some men do. It is as difficult to find valuable gratifying replacement activities, we feel useless at times, and we also appreciate not having to deal with the stress of a constantly overbooked agenda. The fact is, we have not left our brain and our heart at work and we still wish to use them in a positive way.”

                        Authors for Indies at Tanner's Books in book city BC


Men’s Sheds

           For the past three years, the Okanagan Men’s Shed has been bringing men in the Kelowna area together for coffee, friendship, and woodworking. In addition to pursuing their own projects, the men have constructed frames for local fairs, built shelves for a seniors centre, and held workshops in the library. There are seven sheds in Canada with more in development and when I’m being interviewed about retirement strategies, the men’s sheds movement really captures people’s interest. For good reason. When men have a place to hang out and tackle fun community-minded projects, research shows benefits all round. For the men, the camaraderie improves mental and physical well-being. “Health by stealth” they call it. Communities gain from the useful projects. And the peer counseling the men provide each other takes a load off service providers and reduces demands on government programs.

            Art Post is the founder and President of the Okanagan Men’s Shed. He was inspired to investigate the concept when his son told him about the Australian men’s sheds movement, which began in the mid-90’s. There are now about one thousand sheds in Australia and they receive significant government funding in recognition of their contribution to personal and community well-being.

            The Okanagan Men’s Shed has made great strides in educating people about the concept and recruiting members. They currently have 25-30 members, of which about 15 are active. Art is particularly pleased they’ve been able to recruit people with the organizational skills needed to keep the group running. Their current challenge is to find an affordable work space that could accommodate larger scale projects. OKMSA has deliberately kept its membership fees low ($20/year) to ensure broad participation, so large expenditures such as space rental would require external funding.

            OKMSA has focused on building relationships with other community organizations, including tapping into the resources of the UBC Okanagan campus. Business students developed their business plan, and engineering students brain-stormed strategies for member recruitment. One outcome was a brochure targeting the partners of retired men, positioning OKMSA as a “cure for the underfoot spouse.”

            Last year the sheds movement in Canada got a big boost with the establishment of the Canadian Men’s Sheds Association. CMSA aims to connect existing sheds, help start new ones, and raise awareness of the social, physical, and emotional health benefits. You can find a “Shed Startup Toolkit” on their website. Two webinars hosted by UBC Okanagan provide additional insights - one offered in January 2016 and another in January 2015.


You Made a Best Seller!

Dear readers - thank you for buying Ready to Retire? in droves. You put the book on The Globe and Mail best seller list where it's stayed for the past five weeks. I'm very grateful to the hard-working journalists who discussed the book on TV, radio, print, blogs, videos, podcasts, Twitter, and Facebook. You'll find links to some of the coverage under MEDIA. To give you a flavour - I did 22 CBC interviews with radio morning show hosts from Gander, Newfoundland, to Whitehorse, to Victoria, and spots in between - and three CBC regional phone-in shows in the Maritimes, Alberta and BC. The article written by Victoria Ahearn, Canadian Press' multi-talented writer and videographer was picked up by newspapers from coast to coast and her video posted on news sites. It was great fun being on CTV's The Social and  Sirius XM What She Said with their engaging hosts and dedicated audiences. And Global News and its committed newscasters have a serious following. I heard from many people who caught that piece.

None of this would have happened without the top-notch publicity team at HarperCollins especially Julia Barrett and Jason Pratt. I am particularly grateful to the 150 of you who came to the book launch and to Stephanie Woodward, ED of Ryerson's Pension Innovation and Research Centre and to her colleagues for hosting the event. Thank you all. It takes a big village to launch a book.

With Julia Barrett at Harper Collins


What About An Encore Career?

The term encore career was made popular by Marc Freedman, the founder and CEO of Encore.org. Freedman is referring to "second acts for the greater good" - later-in-life employment in fields such as healthcare, education, and the environment. When I interviewed retirement-age men for my book Ready to Retire? a desire to do good with the time remaining was a frequent topic. Some of them were aware of American programs to help people find later-in-life careers that combine personal meaning and social impact, and they want Canada to step up. As one man said, "I wish there was more encouragement for encore careers in Canada, the way there is in the US. There's an interest from us seniors, but not from the folks who should be sponsoring it, like governments or educators." I explored this subject in an article for Huffington Post. Read it here.


Praise for Ready to Retire?

I am holding an advance copy of Ready to Retire? and it looks gorgeous. Patrick Crean and the team at HarperCollins have done a terrific job.  Look for the book in stores after January 6 and you can pre-order the book online now. A book launch is scheduled for January 18 in Toronto. I'll post more information about that event soon. Here is some feedback from early readers. Most gratifying!

 “Lyndsay Green doesn’t prescribe, much less preach. Instead, she brings together sixty-one men and women who have lived through just about every variation on the subject (including non-retirement) and lets them talk. The result is a book that will speak to anyone who is within shouting distance of retirement, with common sense, encouragement and wisdom.”

    —Katherine Ashenburg, author of The Dirt on Clean: An Unsanitized History

“Insightful, comprehensive, incredibly helpful. As a ‘delayed retiree’ I found Lyndsay’s book touched on every issue that I have been thinking about. It’s not a retirement roadmap, but it tells me how to develop one!”

    —The Hon. John Manley, Former Deputy Prime Minister of Canada

“A most interesting and helpful study of the new realities faced by those like myself who are now contemplating retirement and reinvention.”

     —The Hon. R. Roy McMurtry, O.C., O.Ont, QC LSM, Former Chief Justice of Ontario

“If you think aging and retirement inevitably means drink, depression, divorce and dementia, you better think again. Instead, read Lyndsay Green’s Ready to Retire?, which deftly combines anecdote, literature, philosophy and social science to give the intelligent reader enlightenment through insight and empathy. Give this book to a dad, husband or friend who is contemplating retirement or who has already retired. I guarantee they will thank you.”

     —Michael Adams, President of the Environics Institute

“Is there life after work? In this insightful and generous book, Lyndsay Green challenges our assumptions about aging and retirement. Green finds that retirement is often one of the richest stages of life. Read this book. It will inspire and encourage you, and change how you think about what it means to grow older and ‘retire.’”

     —Bernie Lucht, former Executive Producer of CBC Radio’s Ideas