Leading the Way

     On Feb 9, I spoke at the Parksville Community Centre in support of the excellent Oceanside Hospice. This gave me a chance to check out some terrific projects for seniors that are taking place in the area. Parksville, BC and the neighbouring community of Qualicum Beach have the highest proportion of seniors in Canada. By 2030, Parksville's current population of some 12,000 people is estimated to grow by 31%. And the population of seniors aged 75+ is expected to double. So I'm watching with interest the plans and projects launched for seniors by these savvy communities. I suspect they'll be leading the way for the rest of us.

     The photo above shows a great example. Last summer the Parksville Lions Club installed Adult Fitness Equipment at the Parksville Community Park next to the kids Adventureland and right near their boardwalk. As a fan posted on their facebook page "... judging by all the comments and the people down there trying out the equipment, it is a big hit! This will greatly enhance my regular walks down to the beach along the boardwalk by giving me some circuit exercises too, and you sure can't beat the view!"


Study Group Tips for The Perfect Home

     In The Perfect Home For a Long Life, I devoted a chapter to reasons for optimism. Marlene Chan is a good example. She's taking the expertise she acquired as a federal government policy analyst and applying it to how we house ourselves for the future. In Spring 2014, Marlene plans to offer a course on this topic through the McGill Community for Lifelong Learning (MCLL), and she's doing her homework first. As an example of the thoroughness with which she tackles things, she tracked down two study groups looking at The Perfect Home for a Long Life and asked them for their advice. The ones she reached are at opposite ends of the country, one in Halifax, NS and the other on Quadra Island, BC.

     Pat Kipping has been facilitating The Reboom Housing Boomers Study Group in Halifax, since May. In their last session they looked more closely at some of the ideas in The Perfect Home for a Long Life around sharing amenities and services and what ‘living in community’ means. In 2014, they intend to take some practical steps to identifying new initiatives they may want to start or join. On Quadra Island, Marlene reached Dirk van der Minne who is participating with the Quadra Circle in a study group on The Perfect Home for a Long Life.

Here are some things Marlene learned:

  • If there is no continuity in attendance, the composition of each meeting changes and it's hard to make progress. Most of the time is spent on basic introductions and getting to know one other and their particular situation, rather than moving the agenda forward. Advice: If your goal is to come up with specific projects, expect that progress will be slow. Otherwise, be content to stimulate people's thinking about their own personal strategies.
  • Since people's needs and wants are unique, coming to agreement on a joint approach to tackling future housing requirements is challenging. It can be hard to come together as a group because the solutions are so personal. Advice: Look for commonalities.

In addition to this good advice, Marlene passes along the following resources she will be exploring in her course in addition to The Perfect Home For a Long Life.

  • Canadian Association for Gerontology - Friendly Housing for an Older Population - Fireside Chat, November 27, 2013
  • CBC Sunday Edition "Alternative living arrangements for the elderly"
  • Radical Rest Homes
  • Future Social: Design Ideas, Essays and Discussions on Social Housing for the 'Hardest-To-House' by Matthew Soules
  • The Human Scale, a film directed by Andreas Møl Dalsgaard
  • "Rahul Mehrotra: Working in Mumbai" Mellon Lecture, December 5, 2013

Jean and Henry screen "Still Mine"

In The Perfect Home For a Long Life I introduced you to Henry and Jean Kroll (pictured above) who have been living for the past six years in Silver Sage, a seniors cohousing project in Boulder, Colorado. Jean has dementia and the strong Silver Sage emotional circle allows her to both contribute to and be supported by her community. Henry was keen to watch the film "Still Mine", which is based on a true story, after watching the trailer and seeing parallels with his and Jean's journey. We managed to get a DVD to Henry, and the Silver Sage community held a screening this week. Here's Henry's review of this excellent film.

I saw a trailer of the award-winning Canadian dramatic film, STILL MINE featuring the excellent acting of Genevieve Bujold and James Cromwell. Looking at the trailer and having a youngster's crush on Ms. Bujold from her films 40 plus years ago...I had to see Still Mine. And it is better than I expected. Bujold, now 70 years old, plays a woman living with declining cognitive impairment in rural New Brunswick.  Craig, her independently-minded older husband played by Cromwell, wants to "protect" wife Irene (Bujold) from their adult children who favour placing their frail mom in a senior living community in the "city". The film makes a fascinating and moving cinematic expression, and captures in my view very much of what Jean and I are now living through together. Craig moves from denial towards loving acceptance determined to live out their years together in the new home he builds to accommodate his wife's needs. Cromwell gives the performance of his great career in this role.   


How I Spent My Morning

Jo sent me this photo labeled "How I Spent My Morning" along with this inspiring story of her parents.

I'm really enjoying your book. It's so well done and is giving me and my parents lots to talk about. My parents are in their late seventies. Several years ago they moved across the country to a community with great services for seniors. I spent two weeks with them this summer and had the best time. They are in amazing shape...truly stronger and more energetic than last year. And I've been saying this every year for the past four years. I attribute this to Mom's good gardening and nutrition program for both of them, a great social life, and their twice weekly fitness classes. The fitness aspect is huge. The classes are beautifully put together with music, yoga, posture and balance, strengthening, cardio and brain-gym. I love taking the classes myself and get a challenging work-out each time. My folks have been at this for years now with the same excellent fitness teacher. Watching them these past years proves to me that we can "anti-age".


Planning to 'Age in Place'

I love hearing from you about the ways you are using The Perfect Home For a Long Life to plan your housing for the future. Here's Drew's story.

 We applaud your new book and have found it interesting reading. Moreover, we are integrating much of what we learned from it in the design for a new house that we are in the process of buying. Your book came out at exactly the right time.

 After considering that my father-in-law was able to stay in his home, on his own until he was almost 99, (except for an occasional housekeeper and in the last few years some 'Nurse Next Door' help), we decided we wanted to create our own 'old age' home. We figured this is the time to take these decisions and your chapter regarding your parents reinforced that decision.

 We did not want to move from our neighbourhood. Fortunately, our elderly neighbours decided to move into an apartment. We had asked them to speak with us first if they were interested in selling. They did and we are proceeding with a private deal. The house is directly across the street from us and has a large pond with the park at the back.

 After the sale closes, we'll begin renovations to make it into a home we can live in until we are 100. We have a great architect who is very sympathetic to our needs.  We're opening up the back with more light and French doors to the garden, as well as new kitchen, baths, etc. We'll be integrating a suite on the top floor for eventual live-in help. We are considering the design of an elevator and having the doorways and bathrooms easy access regardless of mode of transportation.

 It is a year-long project and we will live in our existing house while it is undertaken. So we are taking what we think to be the right steps.

 Thanks for your inspiration.